152: Don't leave the elephant in the room - with Diane Mader
About Diane Mader
Diane Mader is a divorce attorney with 30 plus years of experience practicing divorce law and mediation in Wisconsin. Diane's goal is to teach everyone who seeks a divorce on how to have a good divorce. Divorce doesn't have to be a disaster. Diane urges people to define divorce as a future-focused planning process. Divorcing parents must find solutions to parenting conflicts. Critical financial decisions must be made. Invest in your future by hiring a talented guide through the divorce process.
How long have you been practicing divorce law and how has your marketing of it changed over the years?
“You can imagine with more than 30 years in the same field, things have changed a lot. And I think the way it all started for me is like most baby lawyers when I started, I went in with a mentor who had a practice. And he agreed to take me in for zero pay, but good experience…”
What is mediation and why do you think it is a better divorce process?
“Collaboration is a fancy way to do mediation, in my idea. And it can be so helpful, especially if you have people who are at very different, let’s say power imbalance. There’s a power imbalance between the parties…”
Can you share with me your most successful or favorite networking story/experience that you’ve had?
“as a mediator and as a lawyer, most of my referrals come from past clients. And there’s only so much networking you can do with past clients… last summer a former client emailed me and said my son is getting divorced, would you be the officiant…”
How do you stay in front of, or best nurture your network community?
“I wear my integrity on my sleeve. That’s the best way to nurture networking with my clients…”
Digital networking or traditional networking?
“Personally, I love digital, because I am a writer. It really gives me the opportunity to get my message out in a consistent way. I’m also actually an introvert so the personal networking in a group is not easy for me but I’m good at it…”
If you could go back 20 years, what would you tell yourself to do more or less of regarding your career?
“I would tell myself to do what you did Diane, which is to follow your north star. Don’t end up trapped in a traditional practice of whatever type that doesn’t speak to you.”
We’ve all heard of the 6 degrees of separation… Now, who would be the one person you’d love to connect with and do you think you could do it within the 6th degree?
“I would love to connect with President Jimmy Carter, and his wife Rosalyn as well. Jimmy Carter has always been a personal hero of mine because of his peacemaking and I really believe he was undervalued as a president because of his peacemaking…”
What book are you reading right now?
“…I listen to Rhonda Noordyk’s, she’s a Milwaukee person and hers is about financial wellness. I listen to that and I was a guest on it. I listen to Kathy Heller…”
Any final words of advice for our listeners?
“be yourself, be authentic, be kind, be compassionate, have empathy. Remember its how you make the person feel that they remember…”
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